Getting dumped is one of the worst things a person can experience, especially if it’s by someone who you thought was your soulmate. No one ever gets used to being rejected in such a personal way. The pain can last a long time, and it’s something that we never truly forget. Some people are left wondering where it all went wrong. How could a soulmate turn on you? But the thing to remember is that a breakup rarely happens suddenly without reason. It is usually the result of a series of events that occur over a period of weeks or months. Sometimes it takes getting dumped to realize all of the signs that were there from the start. Hindsight is 20/20, but you don’t have to ever be surprised again. Here are 10 signs that you’re about to get dumped so that you can either prepare yourself, or change the situation.
Bad body language
A person can control what they say, but it’s a lot harder for someone to control their body language. You can usually notice a difference in how close a person gets or how much they touch you. Sometimes a person who isn’t interested in maintaining the relationship will even have a hard time facing their partner. If you notice body language that is substantially cooler, you can take it as a sign that something is wrong.
No more smiles
When we’re around someone we like, we can’t help but smile. Even the grumpiest people smile when they encounter their ultimate soulmate. It’s human nature and we can’t help it. We also can’t help not smiling when we aren’t happy. If eliciting a smile from your partner is like pulling teeth, then they might not like the current situation.
Lies
Catching your partner in a lie can be doubly bad. First off, there is the lie itself. Second, they may not be making any effort to hide the lie. After all, you caught them. A person who wants to work at a relationship will keep lies to a minimum. And if they do slip up on occasion, then they make every effort to cover up the lie. Chances are if you caught them lying, then they don’t really care. A person who doesn’t care isn’t your soulmate.
Less time together
When two soulmates are in love they make every effort to spend time together. Even after the initial infatuation stage of a relationship, healthy couples enjoy each other’s company and make time for one another. It’s a bad sign when you rarely see your partner. It’s even worse when you try to make plans with them but they are always busy. You have to ask yourself what else they could be doing during all that time that you’re apart.
More fights
Every couple fights even if they are soulmates, that’s part of being in a relationship. But if fights are increasingly unpredictable and petty, then you know trouble is brewing. Furthermore, if your partner seems to start fights on purpose, that could be a sign that they wants to create an excuse for breaking up.
Increasingly private
If you notice your partner changing computer passwords, creating separate email accounts, or taking a lot private phone calls, it is clear they want to hide things from you. What these things might be will vary, but you can probably bet you won’t like it. If your partner is defensive about these things, it’s a good indication that they have a separate life they want to keep away from you.
An appearance overhaul
Watch out if your partner goes from comfortable casuals to expensive and trendy threads. This may be an outward sign that they are looking to attract someone else. Also pay attention to how they dress in different situations. Your partner may not bother to get dolled-up when they’re around you. But you might see them coming or going dressed nicely for an occasion that has nothing to do with you.
Fewer kisses and hugs
A person who is looking for a breakup will be significantly less affectionate. Even a simple thing like a hug from a soulmate can tell you a lot about your current relationship. Physical intimacy is essential to a healthy relationship so be aware if there is a lack of cuddle time. It’s also possible to gauge emotional attachment by the level of a kiss. The end could be near if all you ever get is a quick peck on the cheek.
Trust your instincts
Most people have a sixth sense when it comes to these things. And sometimes it doesn’t take any sensory super powers to tell what’s going on. Quite often, people just choose to ignore the signs because the alternative would be too painful. You might have to accept the fact that you aren’t soulmates. But keeping yourself in denial will only make the situation worse. If you think a breakup is imminent, then there’s a reason you feel that way. Take a step back to assess the situation and see if there’s anything that can be done. If you are honest with yourself, you may be able to prepare yourself for an oncoming breakup. Better yet, open up the lines of communication and acknowledge the situation. You might be able to save the relationship if that’s what you want. And if not, at least you won’t get blind-sided. Breakups will always be painful, but they don’t always have to be a surprise.
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