Every guy at some point in their life has been tempted to use a cheesy pickup line. Some guys even do it on a regular basis. But let’s be realistic here – pickup lines don’t actually work. Well, at least under normal circumstances they don’t. If you are set on using your favourite cheesy pickup lines you should prepare yourself for some degree of failure. Women tend to frown on getting “picked up” in this way because it puts them in a negative light. Quite often, pickup lines have the affect of objectifying women and the fairer sex generally doesn’t like that. A pickup line gives off the vibe that you aren’t really trying and therefore the target of your attention doesn’t feel special. Having said that, is it still possible to use a cheesy pickup line to meet a woman? The answer is yes. Read on to find out how.
You might be confused at this point because I’ve said that cheesy pickup lines don’t work, and yet I claim they can be useful. Allow me to explain. If you go up to a woman and say something like, “Sex is a killer…Would you like to die happy?” you are not going to get any manner of success. More likely, you would get a roll of the eyes, a drink poured on your head, or a well-deserved slap on your face. If she has friends with her, they will laugh at you along with all of your dead ancestors who will be rolling in the clouds as they watch your stupidity from heaven. And if you act like you think it’s a mystery that your line failed, you will look even stupider – and rightfully so. Any man who would say something like that and expect results would be a grade “A” idiot or a clueless player.
If that’s all the game you have when it comes to dating, then you’re going to be alone for a long time. However, knowing a bunch of cheesy pickup lines can come in handy if you use them with the right technique. You just have to understand how meeting girls works. Girls want to be treated with respect, but they like a challenge at the same time. Some of the best relationships start when there’s a bit of animosity at the beginning of the relationship. In fact, this is a very advanced dating technique – making her hate you a little before you show your nice side. It should really only be tried by dating experts, but it works perfectly with the use of a good pickup line.
Basically you turn yourself into a lovable jerk, which is dangerous because you have to be a jerk first before you show lovable you can be. And while you are treading water in this area where you may seem like an idiot you have to delicately balance witty banter that keeps her engaged. But the perfect way to start off this whole interaction is with a good pickup line. Once you have her attention you have to playfully acknowledge that the line was stupid, but also tease her for not falling for it. As long as you emit confidence and intelligence (it takes smarts to pull this off) you will stand out from the crowd. Keep in mind that you have to be realistic about this technique. If you go overboard with an offensive sexist pickup line, there may be no amount of charming you can do to salvage the situation. You want the line to act as introduction to get her attention, but quickly move past it as you establish your care-free attitude. Be playful and don’t seem needy as if the outcome hinges on anything you have to say. She may appear to regard you with disdain at first, but if you’re doing it right she will actually be intrigued. It’s up to you to keep her attention and don’t consider an automatic love spell, but if you’re five minutes into a conversation after the initial pickup line then consider the mission a success.
A Further exploration of the topic
Alright let’s discuss what a pickup line is. Saying “hello” is not considered a pickup line, nor is asking a sincere question.
“Would you like to have coffee?” is not a pickup line. Well, I guess in a sense it is, if it’s the first thing you ask, but for the purposes of this website it is not a cheesy pickup line or a particularly funny pickup line so let’s just consider it a question. It’s actually a good question too, but it’s one you want to end up asking, not lead off with. “Would you like to have coffee” is probably the most popular relationship question that leads to the first date.
Let’s take a look at various types of pickup lines. Keep in mind, I won’t actually be using real pickup lines as examples. The reason is that you can find your own pickup lines on other places all over the web. The point of this site isn’t to give you a whole long list of cheesy pickup lines. So I’ll use my own examples and if you want actual pickup lines, you shouldn’t have any problem finding them elsewhere.
The statement
Examples:
If beauty were a fish then you’d be a whale
I’m like an elephant balancing on a tennis ball because I’m about to fall for you.
Your face is so beautiful that I’m going to throw up
The question and answer
Are you a map? Because without you I’d be lost.
Do you like cheap men and bad conversation? Then I’m your guy.
Do you have bandages? Because my heart is bleeding all over the place for you.
The word play
Are you Jamaican? Because you Jamaican me want to kiss you all over.
Hey Hot Dog, you have a decent sausage but I prefer your buns.
Consider me as pants and a t-shirt and let me be clothes to you.
Ridiculous and out of the blue
I’m a piece of snot – pick me.
A guy died over there – let’s get out of here.
Have a drink with me. I was talking to myself but you can join us.
Remember, none of these should be considered “real” pickup lines and they are just examples using a general format. In short, they are variations of existing pickup lines and you can probably decipher the originals on your own.
Those are the general types of pickup lines. Any pickup line you find will likely fall into one of these four categories and quite often there is overlap where a line can belong to two or more categories. Be careful, a pickup line that belongs to all four categories will have a much lower chance of success!
You can feel free to go up to a girl and compare yourself to a booger, but don’t blame me if it doesn’t work.
Alright, I’m not claiming that you should be using pickup lines. I will make my declaration on their usefulness at a later date. For now, let’s just assume that you want to use a pickup line and you’re wondering how to make it work.
Pick the line that’s right for you
Whether you’re going with the cheesy pickup lines or funny pickup lines, you will want to use ones that are appropriate for you, your look, and your personality. If you look like a nice guy, then there’s no point in forcing horribly cheesy pickup lines out of your mouth. You are basically negating your advantage and why would you want to do that? Ok, so sometimes guys who look nice are actually sleezeballs and if they are, they probably aren’t going to be very good at self assessment. Cheesy pickup lines can work! So can funny pickup lines! I will tell you how later, but for now if you are a beginner at using pickup lines then stick with ones that come out of you with ease. If a line is too corny for you or it even makes you want to wretch, then don’t use it. Being yourself is a big part of dating.
Don’t just rely on One line
Ok so you’ve searched a long list of pickup lines and you found one that you love. It’s funny and it’s original and you’re convinced that it will get you a date. No matter how great you think that line is, do yourself a favour and get a backup. Actually get two or three or even seven or eight backups. The fact is, it doesn’t matter how great a pickup line is, no line alone will always be all-purpose that is appropriate for any situation at any time. Having a mental catalogue of lines will help you to adapt to any situation that may develop. And trust me, if you’re going to be using a tonne of pickup lines – situations will develop!
Anticipate the response
You can’t just deliver a pickup line and expect magic to happen. In fact, what you can expect is that it won’t be the be all and end all of the pickup. It’s just the beginning and if all your charm ends with the line then you’ll probably end up going home alone. The worst case scenario is you’ll look like a total idiot. Actually, the worst case scenario is you get slapped in the face. Let’s just hope that doesn’t happen. Make sure to analyze your chosen pickup line and anticipate any responses. You can probably tell what your target is going to say and with experience you’ll actually have a long list of responses you’ve gotten. It will take trial and error but pairing the right line with the right situation, and then being prepared with quick responses will go a long way in leading to success.
Pickup Lines from a Woman’s Point of View
If you are a guy who has used a pickup line, hopefully you’ve considered what it’s like to be on the receiving end of such smoothness. If you haven’t now is your chance. Let’s be clear here, pickup lines don’t have a great reputation. Both cheesy pickup lines and even funny pickup lines are in their own segregated category of dating techniques. Most people don’t use pickup lines and those who do almost always use them in a joking way. Let’s examine what a woman might think about this phenomenon of men saying ridiculous things to her in an attempt to get a date.
The first thing to remember is that every woman has at some point in her life heard a pickup line. Maybe it was something told as a joke, maybe it was even her female friend relating a story to her that included the advances of a clueless dolt. Whatever the case you can be sure every woman knows what a pickup line is. No woman will ever be like, “Oh what a clever thing to say!” She will immediately be able to put the line in the proper category and even if it’s the cleverest thing she’s ever heard she will still say to herself “Oh that was a great pickup line”. She’ll know exactly what has happened and then decide how to proceed from there. Why is this important? Because it is vital that you don’t think you’re re-inventing the wheel. No matter how original what you choose to say, the heart of what you are doing is still delivering a pickup line. Don’t fool yourself, and more importantly don’t think you’re fooling her and you’ll be in the best position possible.
Why do many women have an adverse reaction to pickup lines when it comes to dating and relationships? Probably because at the very core, pickup lines are insulting in some way. Now you may say “Wait, what if I compliment her on her looks?” “What if my line is not sexual in any way?” “What if my line is super funny and I only use it for special occasions?” Yes, all those points are fine and dandy, but let’s face it, all pickup lines are in some way insulting. No matter how good your line is, the woman will say these things to herself:
Does this guy think I’m easy?
Do I look like a girl that would respond to this?
Does this guy think this line will actually work?
Who does he think he is?
That’s all he could come up with?
Most importantly, at the very heart of it she will be feeling this sentiment:
I am a human being and an individual. I don’t want to be judged just on my looks alone. By using this pickup line, it is obvious that this person likes the way I look, but they have put no effort in engaging me in conversation – to find out who I am and what I’m about. I’m not just another statistic that can be reeled in by a common pickup line. I respond to originality and genuine interest, not stock lines.
All this equals = come on pal, I’m not going to fall for that. Move along.
One thing to remember is that women have a tendency to play hard to get. Actually, it might be more than just a tendency – it could be a thing that is programmed into their DNA. Biologically they are programmed to find the best mate, or the best father who will give her kids. The man who is better likely to do that will be persistent and also have the resources to be able to impress her even after she expresses no interest in the beginning. Is that sexist or is it fact, who knows and it’s not that important to determine at this stage. The main point is that no matter what you say, no woman is going to visibly fall head over heels for you and be willing to do whatever you say. Chances are, even if she is interested she will play it cool. That’s part of the fun anyways isn’t it?
So what does this mean for pickup lines? It basically means that you usually aren’t going to get a positive response. Combined with the “insulting” factor as previously discussed, this means that a pickup line on its own will rarely get you any good results whatsoever. It will be up to you to follow up with something that will dispel her first impression of you. Of course, this can all be used as part of a technique used by great pickup artists – that of being the charming jerk. It basically involves making a bad (but memorable) first impression, make her think you’re an a**hole, and then at some point later on show her that you are actually sensitive and not that bad at all. I’ll go into that technique at a later time and how a bad pickup line can actually be an effective tool if this is what you’re going for.
But let’s not get too manipulative right away. I still want you to consider the success rate of a standard pickup line and then compare it to other ways you can strike up a conversation. Remember, a pickup line has many hidden messages contained within it. You might not even pick up on them but you can be sure a woman is thinking them. Using a cheesy line or even funny one will make a woman question your motives. It will be the difference between a guy looking for a date and a guy looking for sex. Chances are you don’t want to be categorized as a guy simply looking for sex (even if you are). Think of a pickup line and then think of all the hidden messages it might convey, what types of thoughts will it put into a woman’s mind and how will it affect her opinion of you. Then think of a standard “Hello” and polite introduction. Are there any hidden messages there? There shouldn’t be, at least not as many. The main point is that pickup lines start you off with a whole bunch of messages in her head. There’s a lot of room for interpretation and misinterpretation. A regular introduction is much less complicated. Both have their strengths and weaknesses however and it takes experience to learn how to use each effectively. Notice I’m not saying never use pickup lines. They have their place for sure. But if you aren’t into the games and tiresome dating scene, then you’re much better off just introducing yourself like a gentleman.
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