There are two men sitting at the bar. One is looking at you right in the eye and trying to get your attention. He has a glimmering smile and takes every opportunity to show you his pearly white teeth. The other man is attractive, but he can’t look at you directly for more than a couple of seconds. He’s clearly nursing his drink and trying his best to blend into the background. One of these men will make a great boyfriend, and possibly be your soulmate. Guess which one it is. Every woman has their own mental image of their dream guy or soulmate. Usually “tall, dark, and handsome” are the key words that come into play. Very rarely does the word “shy” pop up as a characteristic that women find attractive. In fact, being shy can be quite a turn off for some women. But are shy guys that horrible to date? Do they make bad soulmates?The answer is no and this article will outline the top myths about dating a shy guy. Shy guys can make great dating partners and if you are tired of ending up with the same insensitive players all the time, a shy guy may be your key to relationship happiness.
Myth #1: A shy guy isn’t interested.
Shy guys are great at making themselves invisible if they want to. Chances are there have been a whole slew of shy guys you have entered and exited your life without you even knowing about it. Shy guys are also good at masking their feelings, especially if they have a crush on you. So you might not ever know if a shy guy is interested in you unless you pay close attention. If you see a guy and you think you have no chance because he seems aloof and cold, he might actually be shy. Of course, he might really be aloof and cold too, but that’s where you have to take the incentive to learn what’s really going on. That’s the first thing you need to know about shy guys, that it takes a bit more work on your part in the beginning to bring out the soulmate. That’s just the way it is, but the initial effort can result in a great payoff so don’t give up on the idea just yet.
Myth #2: A shy guy has no confidence.
Everyone woman will say that confidence is one of the most attractive characteristics a man can have. On the outside, shy guys don’t appear to very confident but this can be misleading. A man can be naturally introverted or maybe just uncomfortable in certain situations. The great thing about shy guys is that there are often a lot of great things lying beneath the surface. So yes, maybe a shy guy isn’t the most confident when it comes to speaking, but you can bet they will have talents and achievements that they are proud of. Confidence may not reveal itself outwardly with a shy guy but remember that you don’t have to be a show-off to be confident soulmates.
Myth #3: A shy guy is a loner.
Sometimes it might seem like a shy guy has no friends. The more likely scenario is that you just haven’t met his friends yet. Shy guys are very private and they are slow to reveal anything about their personal lives. While it may be true that s shy guy may have less casual friends than the average person, you can bet they have more close and deep friendships. Shy guys aren’t into making friends to keep up with appearances or participating in any kind of popularity contests. They value true relationships and like to surround themselves with people who appreciate the value of meaningful communication. Not all shy guys are awkward social misfits so remember, just because they might enjoy spending time alone that doesn’t mean they don’t have any friends.
Myth #4: A shy guy is boring.
If you look only on the surface then a shy guy might very well seem boring. After all, he doesn’t have much to say, isn’t sharing his interests, and keeps everything private. It would seem logical to assume his personal life isn’t very exciting. But remember that shy guys hold all their “sizzle” on the inside. Sometimes you would be quite surprised to learn what a shy guy likes to do for fun. It takes a while to access the inner world of a shy guy, but sometimes they have the most interesting personal passions and outlooks to offer. They often live in their minds, but in this setting they can be quite imaginative and interesting. They would undoubtedly appreciate the right person to share their thoughts with, and in return you would get access to unique and developed personality.
Myth #5: A regular guy is better than a shy guy.
Sometimes a regular guy has as many hang ups as anyone else, it’s just that they show it differently. So a regular nice guy can be insecure but instead of staying quiet like a shy guy, they choose to over-compensate by being loud. Regular guys may be more social but that doesn’t mean they are more confident, interesting, or intelligent. One area that shy guys excel in is that of listening. Shy guys are great listeners and the best thing is that they give you a chance to speak. They take the time to absorb and you’ll find them remembering what you say. Shy guys are great at empathizing and make sensitive soulmates. And if you’re tired of getting played by regular guys, you can rest assured that most shy guys are gentlemen. They either don’t have the skills to be players or they are simply looking for more than a one night stand. It can be lonely being shy so a shy guy will truly appreciate you, and if he cares for you then he’ll be less likely to jeopardize the relationship by being a jerk.
If you are tired of ending up with losers and players, and not your soulmate, you might want to try drawing from a different pool of men. Shy guys are the greatest untapped natural resource in the world of dating. As you can see, none of the major myths about shy guys holds true. You might have to do some digging to get to the buried treasure but nothing good comes without effort. You may want to be wooed and swept off your feet, but get off your butt and meet a shy guy half way. Keep these dating tips in mind, make him feel comfortable and he may be the most romantic and sensitive man that you will ever meet in your life. He might just be the perfect soulmate.
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