There is nothing more nerve-racking in search for your soulmate than the fateful first date. We’ve all had really great first dates, some that may have lead to long-lasting and fulfilling relationships. Unfortunately, chances are that you’ve also been on a few bad dates – experiences that may have been embarrassing or simply a waste of time. While there is no overall formula to guaranteeing a good first date a hundred percent of the time, there are a few things you can do to ensure an avoidable mistake doesn’t get in the way of a possible love connection. Here are some essential first date mistakes you can easily avoid to make sure that one day you’ll never have to go on a first date ever again. And remember, every journey to finding a soulmate involves a first date.
1. Having Bad breath. After your eyes, hair, and clothes, the next thing your date will notice is your breath. You may have messy hair and even a completely uncoordinated fashion sense, but bad breath is the more unforgivable offense. After all, we all know how hard it is to maintain a conversation when the person we are talking to is forcing us to hold our breath between sentences. In a time when mouthwash, gum, breathe strips, and mints are available at any local corner store there is no excuse not to have presentable breathe for your first date.
2. Being late. Unless you are a heart surgeon or a diplomat who just came from a meeting with the president, there is no reason for you to be late for your first date. Some people are even late on purpose, but don’t start off your date with head games. Agree to a time and be five minutes early, show your date that initial respect and that will set a far better tone for the night.
3. No chance to talk. The first date is all about getting to know the other person. That’s the main purpose and you don’t really have to worry about finding an extravagant or complicated way to achieve this goal. More importantly, you don’t want to pick an activity for your date that prevents getting to know your love interest entirely. For this reason you should never pick going to the movies as your first date destination. You’d basically be sitting next to your date in silence and by the end of the two hour film you won’t know any more about them. How will you know if you’re soulmates if you don’t even speak?
4. Too much talking. Alright so you’ve picked a great place where you can sit down start sharing. But now the problem isn’t that there isn’t enough talking, it’s that there is too much talking – particularly on your part. There’s no way to find out if you are soulmates if you can’t talk with each other. Remember that you want to be having a conversation, not to be giving a speech about yourself. A common mistake that is made particularly when someone is nervous is that they start to babble about themselves, divulging way too much information and dominating the conversation. This is a mistake where the solution is simple: be quiet and let your date talk too.
5. Answering your cell phone. Answering a call on your cell phone would be fine if you were two months into a relationship but on a first date it is simply rude. It doesn’t matter how important the call is or how much preamble of an excuse you give. It won’t even matter if your date says it’s ok or if he or she says she didn’t mind afterwards. The underlying message is always clear: your date isn’t the most important person to you right now and you don’t have the manners to turn off your cell phone during an intimate first meeting.
6. Getting drunk. We all know how fun it is to talk to someone who is drunk. It’s like talking to someone who isn’t really there and as things get worse the situation just becomes more unbearable. Having a social drink or two is perfectly fine, but if you cannot control yourself on your first date it will be noted by whoever is sitting across from you. The problem can be avoided entirely by not drinking at all so if you know you’re going to be tempted, pick a place where drinks aren’t available.
7. Talking about the unmentionables. There are a few subjects that should be avoided on a first date. In no particular order some of them are religion, heavy political views, and your former relationships. Sure it might be possible to have a delightful conversation about the ways different religious views compare and contrast, but why take the risk? This is the first time with the other person so keep it light-hearted and fun, without the risk of offending each other. Soulmates eventually share everything, but not right away.
8. Be careful what you eat. In a perfect world it wouldn’t matter what you ordered on your first date and you could eat all the ribs, spicy wontons, and garlic mustard you wanted. But let’s remember to be practical and stick to menu items that are both reasonably priced and not too outrageous. Be careful of veggies such as broccoli and spinach because they are the most likely candidates to get stuck in your teeth. Stick to simple food that you don’t have to eat with your hands.
9. Don’t check out other people. For one night in your life please keep your focus on your date. It doesn’t matter how discrete you may think you are, the other person regardless of whether they are a man or a woman will be aware of your wandering eye. Keep in mind that no one is a subtle as they think and chances are your passing glance will not go unnoticed. Play it safe, not to mention staying respectful, and keep those eyes locked on your date. When two soulmates are together, nothing else exists in the room except those two people. It’s always a bad sign when one person isn’t paying attention to the other.
10. Not paying your share. If you are a man and you asked the lady out on a date, then you should pay. It doesn’t get more simple than that. If you are the other party, it always helps to at least offer to pay for half of the bill. Chances are the other person will decline your offer anyways and you’ll get a free meal. Be generous and fair when it comes to paying the bill, that’s all anyone can ask of you.
First dates are never easy so don’t be worried if they make you sweat with stressful anticipation. Chances are the other person is just as nervous as you are. Finding a soulmate can be hard at times. Be responsible for your own actions and make sure to take care of everything you can from your end. If the match is a fit, your date will notice your efforts and reciprocate accordingly. True love might not come easily, but it doesn’t mean that it won’t come so keep hopeful that your next first date will blossom into a grand romance.
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